“I’ve been thinking that I can’t afford for my wife to be a Stay-At-Home Mom.”
” My wife stays home and takes care of our son every single day. She changes his diapers, feeds him, plays with him, puts him down for his nap, and comforts him when he’s upset.”
“Obviously, this is part of being a parent. You take care of your child and you raise your child. But let’s face it. In our day and age, every service (and I mean EVERY service) is hirable.”
Steven has calculated how much the labor of his wife costs:
- The average salary of a full-time nanny – $ 705 per week or $ 36,660 per year.
- House cleaning – from $ 50 to $ 100 per visit, or $ 5,200 a year.
- Personal shopper services (purchase of food products and so on) – $ 65 per hour for 4 hours per week, or $ 13,520 per year.
- Chef – $ 240 per week or $ 12,480 per year.
- Finance Assistant (calculation of the budget, paying bills, and so on) – $ 15 per hour for 5 hours per week, $ 3,900 a year.
- Professional interaction (business dinners, etc.) – $ 75 per hour for 4 hours 3 times a year for a total of – $ 900 per year.
- Laundry – $ 25 per week, $ 1,300 a year
” In total that’s an annual salary of $73,960. Looking objectively at an almost insultingly conservative average of the services rendered, I cannot afford my wife.”
And let’s remember, there’s no sick leave with childcare, there’s no paid time off, there’s no 401(k). All of the incentives that someone who makes over 70K a year would normally enjoy are not part of this deal.
“My wife sometimes feels patronized when I ask her permission to buy something for myself. She feels like it’s my money and my name on the paycheck so I shouldn’t have to ask permission to get myself something every once in a while. The truth is, I’m ashamed of any time I’ve ever made her feel guilty or humored when she’s purchased something for herself. I’m ashamed that she has ever felt like she doesn’t have just as much right to our income as I do.”
“The fact of the matter is that our income doesn’t even come close to covering what she does for our family. I would have to make over 100K to even begin to be able to cover my living expenses as well as employ my wife as a Stay-At-Home Mom!”
“So in a very weird way, this is my way of saying how much I value my wife as the mother of my child and the one who always has my back no matter what. You are more precious than rubies. And I can’t afford you.”