It’s so wonderful when you have in life a person who you can call beloved. With such a person all the usual things bring great pleasure and acquire a different meaning.
1. Share the shower.
When your relationship advances, you eventually begin taking showers together. You scrub each other’s backs and sometimes even shampoo and condition each other’s hair. Those brave foot-massaging gals might even scrub the guy’s feet with a body scrub.
2. Watch the same movie while you’re in different places.
You’ll both be watching a movie and text each other back and forth—sometimes you’ll even call—to assure you ARE watching it.
3. Occupy certain positions and sides of the bed.
What couple doesn’t have designated sides of the bed? Couples understand their love’s need for a quality night’s sleep. In my case, he sleeps on the right side closest to the alarm and I sleep on the left a lot of times against the wall with a pillow to snuggle with when it gets too hot to snuggle with him. In the morning he’s usually down on the floor or halfway there, as I am now taking up all of the bed.
Guys, be honest: You like to snuggle with your girl as much as she enjoys it. And girls, let’s be honest: He can’t do it all night.
When you fall asleep while snuggling there is always a point in the night where he has either sneakily removed his arm or you both wake up and move at the same time; but when you’re rolled facing your sides, there’s usually a leg or two touching each other. This shows that they love you and love snuggling with you, but it just isn’t prudent for that night.
5. Pick where and what to eat together.
When our guy asks where and what we wanna eat, girls need to stop saying, “I don’t care” or (if options are given) “Either way is fine.” Your man KNOWS this is a lie! He will 70% of the time ALREADY know what you’ll pick, but on the off chance you’re having cravings, he won’t make the final decision. And when he says you will go to this place or that, this is your man picking somewhere JUST to see what your reaction will be.
If he loves you, he will easily pick up on your pattern of restaurant choosing.
6. Make each other laugh.
Making your lover laugh is very important. Understanding their sense of humor, how to perk them up on a down day…there’s nothing sweeter, right? No matter what they’re going through, they’re going to need you to make them smile so they know that it’ll all be all right.
7. Change clothes in front of each other.
Whether you live together or not, there is always a point where you change in front of your guy or gal. Finding socks for the other person, helping zip or fix something…it’s really helpful to have them there, especially when you aren’t sure if you’re looking good or not.
8. Tolerate Aunt Flo.
Periods. Physically and emotionally painful for women, emotionally (and physically sometimes) for guys. When your Aunt Flo comes to visit, the first three days are the worst! When your guy is dedicated, he doesn’t take the yelling, crying, random insults, and angry demands to heart. They understand you’re a whole different person off and on. And they always ask if you need something: Do you want chocolate? Do you have tampons? Compress warm enough? Feel sick?
9. Choose good topics for date night.
Date night is a wonderful thing. You get dressed up (even if it’s just to go to Chili’s or Outback), do your hair; your man trims his beard, gels up his hair (in a good way) and looks so handsome in his leather jacket!
But once you sit down for food, what topic comes to mind? For all couples it’s different. However, I’ve interviewed couples who have had the same random topics: new shows to watch, gossip at work, gossip about friends, family issues, vacation ideas, and my own and favorite topic: cannibalism. Don’t ask me how we came to the topic because I have NO idea!
10. Make pillow talk.
I don’t mean the sort of intimate pillow talk for those with a dirty mind. (You know who you are!) I mean the conversations you share at the end of a long day when you lay down together. You ask how each other’s day was and how they’ve been feeling. And then you fall asleep in each other’s arms.