I’m sure most parents would agree that being a mom or dad is one of the most amazing and important tasks we have to perform in life. There are many smart and useful books written on this subject that explain every nuance of parenting. But there are several important secrets of this process about which you won’t read in books. This knowledge will help you not only to educate your children, but also to get pleasure from the process.
- All parents sometimes lose patience
Being a parent means to perform a huge emotional, mental and sometimes physical work. Not always your efforts will be appreciated and you will see instant feedback. Sometimes, on the contrary, we find such a fierce resistance that we feel discouraged. So it’s naturally when sometimes there is a desire to blow up and to break down. Don’t control your temper and take out all that has accumulated. If you don’t the consequences will be far worse.
- The newest and the most expensive toys parents buy for themselves
Up to a certain age the child doesn’t care, how much is this toy. Children may prefer to play with plastic bowls, paper cups and chestnuts instead of a very expensive toy food processor. And it’s even more ridiculous to expect from the child a special care for the purchased toy just because of the fact that it coasted a lot for you. It’s more important to teach the daughter or the son to enjoy the simple things, than to damage their psyche with numbers on the price tag.
- You have the right to anger
Many parents, especially the young, believe that in any case they must love their child and to show their love in every way. It’s wrong. Sometimes children become real monsters that are able to hack off a champion even meditation. Of course, it is not necessary to take them directly to the orphanage because of this, but you should show your true emotions.
- Your “no” does not kill them
Every child should have his clearly defined boundaries of what is permitted. And your clear and firm “no” is used to define them. They may be in a snit and cry, or pretend angels, but no tricks should mislead you to give your child what you consider harmful, dangerous and so on.
It’s nice and easy to constantly say “yes”, but do not succumb to this temptation.
- Children should have time for self-reliance
If you constantly run after and take care of your child, then it is ridiculous to demand from him self-reliance and self-sufficiency. Constant help prevents the emergence of the ability to overcome difficulties and the development of creativity. So try intentionally to leave your children alone, so that they can find something to do and entertain themselves without your help.
- You have the right to rest
Whatever may be important the task of raising children, you can get tired of it too. Let your children read, draw, play with toys while you rest, meditate or just watch TV. Let them know that your time is inalienable and can’t be interrupted by their shouts or regular “I want”.
- Proper nutrition begins from the early age.
Many parents, especially grandmothers, have absolutely wild ideas about children’s nutrition. Yes, it has its own peculiarities, but it does not mean that the child must be fed with chips, pies and ice cream. Often parents try to keep to some dietary restrictions, and feed their children with advertised junk food, justifying it with the words: “Eat until you are young. You may not afford to it eat it being old” This is totally unacceptable.
- You should have your entertainment
Being a parent – this is not a punishment. This does not mean that you should give up your personal life and completely dive into the education and care. If sometimes you go to the cinema, club, visit friends or go to stadium, it doesn’t make you instantly bad dad or mom! Just keep a reasonable balance.
- You need to know the names of all Pokemons
And biographies of the heroes of popular video games, stories of children’s films, and later the names of the cool bands. You do not want to be in advance a mossy dinosaur in the eyes of your child, right?
- Sometimes you have to apologize
Not once you’ll make mistakes in relation to your children.
There are no people that never make mistakes.
There will be unfair decisions, unfounded lectures, just awkward movements. And the best thing that can then be done to restore faith in the justice – it’s just an apology. Although sometimes it is not easy.
- Bringing up children can be incredibly hard and at the same time damn enjoyable process
Within one day or one hour you can repeatedly become disappointed and proud. You can in an interval of 10 minutes experience a surge of severe anger that immediately may be replaced by tenderness. These are typical emotions experienced by all normal parents. If you feel that you don’t deal with it, and your reaction becomes too heightened, it’s time to ask for help and take a small (or a large) timeout. If you continue to force yourself and your psyche, it can damage not only you but also your child.
- You will always compare your child and the result will always be the same
Your child is excellent. He is the fastest, smartest, and quick-witted. And if someone doubts about it, he is obviously envy.
And, you know, you are absolutely right.