It seems simple. You’re happy or not, and no matter what you do you cannot change this. It turns out that you may be happy voluntary. Just need to try and get some useful habits.
Huffington Post published a list of 21 habits that almost all a happy persons have. The article caused a tremendous resonance, got more than 250 thousand likes on Facebook in two days.
- They surround themselves with other happy people
Joy is contagious. Researchers of the Framingham Heart Study who investigated the spread of happiness over 20 years found that those who are surrounded by happy people “are more likely to become happy in the future.” This is reason enough to dump the Debbie Downers and spend more time with uplifting people.
- They smile
Even if you’re not feeling so chipper, cultivating a happy thought – and then smiling about it – could up your happiness levels and make you more productive. It’s important to be genuine with your grin: faking a smile while experiencing negative emotions could actually worsen your mood.
- They cultivate resilience.
According to psychologists, resilience, not happiness, is the opposite of depression: Happy people knowhow to bounce back from failure. Resilience is like a padding for the inevitable hardship human beings are bound to face. As the Japanese proverb goes, “Fall seven times and stand up eight.”
- They try to be happy
Yeah, it’s as easy as it sounds: trying to be happy greatly increases the internal emotional background.
- They are mindful of the good.
It’s important to celebrate great, hard-earned accomplishments, but happy people give attention to their smaller victories, too. When we take time to notice the things that go right – it means we’re getting a lot of little rewards throughout the day.
- They appreciate simple pleasures.
A meticulously swirled ice cream cone. An boundlessly waggy dog. Happy people take the time to appreciate these easy-to-come-by pleasures. Finding meaning in the little things, and practicing gratitude for all that youdo have is associated with a sense of overall gladness.
- They devote some of their time to giving.
Even though there are only 24 hours in a day, positive people fill some of that time doing good for others, which in return, does some good for the do-gooders themselves. Volunteer work is good for both mental and physical health. People of all ages who volunteered were happier and experienced better physical health and less depression. Givers also experience what researchers call “the helper’s high,” a euphoric state experienced by those engaged in charitable acts. The act of making a financial donation triggers the reward center in our brains that is responsible for dopamine-mediated euphoria.
- hey let themselves lose track of time
When you’re immersed in an activity that is simultaneously challenging, invigorating and meaningful, you experience a joyful state called “flow.” Happy people seek this sensation of getting “caught up” or “carried away,” which diminishes self-consciousness and promotes the feelings associated with success.
- They nix the small talk for deeper conversation.
Nothing wrong with shootin’ the you-know-what every now and then, but sitting down to talk about what makes you tick is a prime practice for feeling good about life. Those who take part in more substantive conversation and less trivial chit chat experienced more feelings of satisfaction. “I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings,” – a sentiment that hints at the fact that people wish they’d spent less time talking about the weather and more time delving into what it is that makes their heart swell.
- They spend money on other people
Maybe money does buy happiness.Spending money on other people has a more direct impact on happiness than spending money on oneself.
- They make a point to listen.
When you listen you open up your ability to take in more knowledge versus blocking the world with your words or your distracting thoughts. You are also demonstrating confidence and respect for others. Good listening is a skill that strengthens relationships and leads to more satisfying experiences. A good listener may walk away from a conversation feeling as if their presence served a purpose, an experience that isclosely connected with increased well-being.
- They uphold in-person connections.
It’s quick and convenient to text or tweet at your buddies. But spending the money on a flight to see your favorite person across the country has weight when it comes to your well-being. Social media, while it keeps us in touch, doesn’t allow us tophysically touch, which harveststhe warm-and-fuzzies and even decreases feelings of anxiety.
- They look on the bright side.
Optimism touts plenty of health benefits, includingless stress,a better tolerance for pain and, as HuffPost Healthy Living recently reported, longevity among those with heart disease. When you choose to see the silver lining, you’re also choosing health and happiness. Seligman summed up perhaps the greatest characteristic of the optimist in one of his most acclaimed books, Learned Optimism:
The defining characteristic of pessimists is that they tend to believe bad events will last a long time, will undermine everything they do, and are their own fault. The optimists, who are confronted with the same hard knocks of this world, think about misfortune in the opposite way. They tend to believe defeat is just a temporary setback, that its causes are confined to this one case. The optimists believe defeat is not their fault: Circumstances, bad luck, or other people brought it about. Such people are unfazed by defeat. Confronted by a bad situation, they perceive it as a challenge and try harder.
- They value a good mixtape.
Music is powerful. So powerful, in fact, that it could match up to the anxiety-reducing effects of massage therapy. It was foundthat patients who simply listened to music had the same decreased anxiety symptoms as those who got 10 hour-long massages. Choosing the right tunes could be an important factor, however, as a happy or sad song can alsoaffect the way we perceive the world. In one experiment where researchers asked subjects to identify happy or sad faces while listening to music, the participants were more likely to see the faces that matched the “mood” of the music.
- They unplug.
Technology isn’t going away, but partaking in some kind of a digital detox gives your brain theopportunity to recharge and recover, which — bonus — could increase your resilience.
- They get spiritual.
Studies point to a link between religious and spiritual practice and mirth. For one, happiness habits like expressing gratitude, compassion and charity are generally promoted in most spiritual conventions. And, asking the big questions helps to give our livescontext and meaning. The experience of sacred time provides a time apart from the “profane time” that we live most of our lives in. A daily period of meditation, a weekly practice of lighting Sabbath candles, or attending worship services, or an annual retreat in an isolated, quiet place of solitude all of these are examples of setting time apart from the rush of our everyday lives. Periods of rest and respite from work and the demands of daily life serve to reduce stress, a fundamental cause of chronic diseases that is still the primary causes of death in Western society. Transcendent spiritual and religious experiences have a positive impact.
- They do exercises
Exercise gives you endorphins. Endorphins make you happy. Exercise has been shown to ease symptoms ofdepression, anxiety and stress, thanks to the the various brain chemicals that are released that amplify feelings of happiness and relaxation. Plus, working out makes us appreciate our bodies more.
- They go outside.
Nature is fuel for the soul. Often when we feel depleted we reach for a cup of coffee, but research suggests a better way to get energized is to connect with nature.” And while most of us like our coffee hot, we may prefer our serving of the great outdoors at a more lukewarm temperature:A study on weather and individual happinessunveiled 57 degrees to be the optimal temperature for optimal happiness.
- They spend some time on the pillow
Waking up on the wrong side of the bed isn’t just a myth.When you’re running low on energy, you’re prone to experience lack of clarity, bad moods and poor judgment. A good night’s sleep can really help a moody person decrease their anxiety. You get more emotional stability with good sleep.
- They LOL.
You’ve heard it before: Laughter is the best medicine. A good, old-fashioned chucklereleases happy brain chemicals that, other than providing the exuberant buzz we seek, make humans better equipped to tolerate both pain and stress. Some of the benefits associated with working out, like a healthy immune system, controlled appetite and improved cholesterol can also be achieved through laughter.
- They walk the walk.
It’s not a metaphor. In the experiment, participants were asked to take a three-minute walk. Half of the walkers were told to take long strides while swinging their arms and holding their heads high. These walkers reported feeling happier after the stroll than the other group, who took short, shuffled steps as they watched their feet.